The future of alternative memorials

The future of alternative memorials Cremation is becoming increasingly common in the UK with over 70% of us now choosing this option. The practice of cremation is often undertaken for religious or cultural reasons, but its increasing popularity could also be seen as a result of its comparative cost effectiveness to burial. When opting for cremation, you will be asked what you would like done with your ashes – a difficult question and one with many options. Some of the more well-known choices include burying the ashes in your local cemetery, scattering them, or simply having them displayed in an…

I Want This Played At My Funeral.

I recently attended a social function with a group of old friends, all my age, which is over sixty. None of us had paid much attention to the background music until ‘time of my life’ from dirty dancing began to play. One of my friends leaned across the table to me and said “this is what I’m having played at my funeral” Out of professional interest I asked him who knew that he wanted that played. He thought for a moment and then said, “well, only you now, I suppose” That conversation sums up one of the reasons for planning…

A world remembers.

        With the centenary of WW1 upon us, I’m reminded of a trip I made a couple of years ago.   We took a few days off and drove from France into Belgium. Shortly after we left the motorway system and began to drive through the lovely Flanders countryside we saw a small cemetery. Surrounded by a brick wall, it housed neat rows of white markers, maybe a couple of hundred or so. A few miles further and there was another, and then another and another until it seemed as if just around every corner another field of…

Orchids among fallen angels

You might think a funeral director visiting a cemetery is a bit of a busman’s holiday. But spending the afternoon in Tunbridge Wells Cemetery turned out to be both an education and really enjoyable. After a morning of violent storms, with my wellies safely tucked in the car boot, I took myself off to the borough cemetery. For once, I wasn’t there to carry out a funeral. I was visiting an exhibition and the launch of the newly formed ‘Friends of Tunbridge Wells Cemetery at Hawkenbury’ Yes, it’s a bit of a mouthful – but there’s another, now disused, cemetery…