Why should my business be dementia friendly?

Why would a Funeral business want or need to be dementia friendly? The best way to answer that is to describe three recent funeral arrangements, all of which involved a person living with dementia. The first example was an elderly lady who asked us to arrange her husband’s funeral. He had died in a care home from dementia. The lady, let’s call her Joan, was as grief stricken as any other new widow that I have worked with in over 30 years as a funeral professional. However she had an additional burden in that she had been parted for many…

Making Tonbridge a Dementia Friendly Community

By 2015 there will be 850,000 people with dementia in the UK. There are 40,000 younger people with dementia in the UK. There will be 1 million people with dementia in the UK by 2025. If you were to ask most people “what is dementia?” they would probably say “Alzheimers”. To a point that is true; Dementia is caused by a number of diseases that affect the brain, the most common of which is Alzheimer’s Disease. Different types of dementia affect the brain at different rates and in different ways, but other things like someone’s personal circumstances, the people around…

I Want This Played At My Funeral.

I recently attended a social function with a group of old friends, all my age, which is over sixty. None of us had paid much attention to the background music until ‘time of my life’ from dirty dancing began to play. One of my friends leaned across the table to me and said “this is what I’m having played at my funeral” Out of professional interest I asked him who knew that he wanted that played. He thought for a moment and then said, “well, only you now, I suppose” That conversation sums up one of the reasons for planning…

Your Legacy in a Digital Age

        We are increasingly living our lives virtually via our computers, iPads and smartphones; in the way we communicate with friends, meet people, do our shopping, pay our bills, access our bank accounts and record our memories. Technology has evolved at an enormous pace and so has the way we store information. Simple things such as photographs, which in the past we could have flicked through in a printed album, are now stored online. We are encouraged to protect these digital activities with passwords and facial recognition apps. But what happens to all of this when you die?…

Chris’s Bee Blog or the ramblings of a would bee bee keeper.

  The beegining.(Pedants please note deliberate spelling mistakes) August bank holiday weekend 2014 marks the start of my new life as a beekeeper. My Abbey Funerals blog page seems to have been received much better than I had expected, especially when I ramble on about anything connected with gardens, flowers or wildlife, I thought keeping a blog about this journey might interest some. It will certainly help me to keep a record of how I ‘grow’ as a bee keeper. Bee keeping is something I have been interested in since childhood when I would go with uncle Bill, a cousin…

Count Your Blessings

The newest Facebook craze is to list three things every day for which you are thankful. On day one you have to nominate three of your ‘friends’ to also take up the challenge. Nobody has nominated me yet but that doesn’t stop me from thinking and writing about the things I am thankful for. First has to be my husband and family, and I guess most people would say the same. And, of course, most will also say “mine is the best” but what about those who can’t say that, those who, for whatever reason, have been cut off from…